Hit the Pin, Not the Sand Trap

If you really want to reduce the arms Oz ers and other verbal tics you’re going to have to do something that seems contradictory.

I need you to stop focusing on not saying eyes and arms.

I need you to focus on actually communicating ideas of interest to the person or people you’re speaking to.

Think of it this way.

I’m not a golfer but my golfing friends tell me if you go out on the golf course and you just focus on not hitting in the sand trap you’re much more likely to hit the sand trap than if you focus on pen hitting the ball into the hole.

It’s exactly the same way when it comes to public speaking giving presentations talking to people in uncomfortable situations or even leaving voicemails.

You need to focus on helping the person you’re speaking to focus on giving them ideas that are interesting and useful.

Don’t focus on oh I don’t say.

I hope I don’t say Oh no.

I’ll focus on the ideas for your audience.