بخش 09

[Vishen] Embrace it… [David] And move on. [Vishen] Be happy about it, but move on and do the next thing. [David] Exactly. So I became a Navy SEAL, and I became this, and I became this, and I became this. Do not live in that moment. Get out of it as fast as you can, because it will suck you in, and that will become who you are, just that moment. [Vishen] Now this is a good time to talk about the cookie jar versus the jar of fuck. [David] Right. [Vishen] Tell us about that. [David] So the cookie jar is something I invented. I invented a whole mess of shit to get me through life. I’m big on visualization. big on self-talk, but as I’ve talked about before, it has to be real. So the cookie jar is something I invented because I realized at a young age I was a pussy. And I had to develop an indestructible mental tool box to get through my life, because I didn’t like what I saw in the fucking mirror. A lot of us are able to look in the mirror on a daily basis. I was a big liar growing up. And I can say that now because I overcame myself. I was a liar because I wanted everybody to like me. So I would tell you whatever the fuck you wanted to hear, because in my mind, I wasn’t a very liked kid. In my mind. So I wanted the cool kid in my mind. Like I said, you start to create these things. So to get through all these different things, I started developing these tactics, these different tools, these different tricks. And one was the cookie jar. And right now, like I talked about the race, the Spartan Race. You’re going to forget that. Trust me. When time, like when your life gets fucking hard, and life is coming at you, you will panic and you will forget who the fuck you are. Trust me. Me, I’ve been through, I’ve been in three Navy SEAL Hell Weeks, I’ve been through 60 ultra races, pull up records, tons of failures, all this shit. In that moment where life comes at you the fucking hardest, do you think you sit back and think about a fucking Spartan Race? No. You should. That’s what the cookie far is for. This mental cookie jar. You know how your mom would buy these cookies and have this big old fucking jar, and she just liked to just start dumping shit in there. And then when that got empty, she put some Oreos in there, and then, the next month, maybe some Chips Ahoy, whatever. You don’t know what kind of

fucking cookie you’re going to get out of that thing. So for me, we grew up kind of poor, so those cookies I savored, so that’s why I talk about the cookie jar. So for me, it’s like a fortune cookie now. When times get real fucking bad for me in life, and I start to start going down that fucking rabbit hole of shit man, my life sucks. I’m not strong any more. The strongest person become weak. I go back to the mental cookie jar, and I say, hang on for a second, man. Before you become a total bitch, let’s take a second and think about this, man. Is this that difficult, that’s in front of you? I go back in the mental cookie jar, pull out a cookie, open up this fortune cookie that says, you went through three Hell Weeks. You endured Brazil. Your stepfather got murdered. You were the, pretty much you learned all of high school in six months, because you cheated all through school, just to get in the military. You start to remind yourself of who the fuck you are, because in the worst of times, when life is its worst, you don’t remember how badass you are. All you know is right now life is kicking my fucking ass. And no one’s coming to save you. There’s not like you call your shrink on the fucking phone, hey, you know, who am I? No, sorry. You have yourself, and that’s the thing I realized. I developed all these different tools because in the worst of fucking times, you are alone. You must get your fucking self out of the fucking sewer. No one’s coming in that fucking sewer to get you. It’s dark, it’s nasty, there’s rats down there. It’s your brain. You are the only person that can pull yourself out. So the cookie jar is a tool to remind you of who the fuck you really are in a bad time. [Vishen] Wow, I like that. Now you also mention this concept called the jar of fuck. [David] That’s life. Life is a jar of fuck, and that’s why I believe that you must win the war every morning. Win the war every morning is this. There’s a lot of things in life that we can control, but we choose not to. An example, let’s say tomorrow you now set in your mind you’re getting at fucking six o’clock in the morning, okay? That alarm clock goes off at six o’clock in the morning, but you went to bed at one o’clock. Your first instinct is whatever I said yesterday, I was comfortable. It was a nice day yesterday. I made this fucking plan at eight o’clock at night watching TV with my fucking girlfriend and drinking a fucking milkshake. Now it’s six o’clock in the fucking morning. I’m tired. That’s that motivation shit at eight o’clock. That motivation’s gone.