Affects the Family

So in the introduction we started to talk about the issue of happiness and resiliency and how it’s missing for a great percentage of our population which surely won’t be that different from where you are.

Maybe right next door. On the other side of the world. And we started to talk about how when it’s missing for an individual or perhaps in a relationship how can affect the whole.

Let’s go one level further. Let’s take a look at how happiness and resiliency when it’s missing affects the family unit.

Now a family unit is defined as when there are children involved adults caring for children. It doesn’t matter if there is one parent or multiple parents or guardians or grandparents. But when your family your family.

Now if you’re in a family raising children and you’re not feeling mentally well so resiliency is missing the hard things that have happened to you have really knocked you down.

Your experience of happiness is that you don’t have it. You’re probably going to trend towards things that I call numbing agents.

These are danger zones. Things like drugs alcohol retail therapy addictive eating gambling etc.. Or maybe you’re going to skip right over to circumstantial of situational depression.

And if that doesn’t get work done maybe you’re going to go right into full blown depression. Perhaps you won’t be able to continue working.

Perhaps things will get to a significant and serious level where you’re not able to be the kind of parent you want to be. So happiness folks is a serious topic.

Ironically happiness right. Serious topic. So when we don’t address and give people access to greater resiliency to handle the inevitable challenges that will come at us in life and when we don’t teach people how they can create more happiness for themselves, As parents this can actually infect the next generation and children can grow up in dysfunctional homes Dealing with parents who are potentially mentally unwell. and I’m not talking about mentally unwell like.

mental illness mental illness is an entirely different conversation.

This is not that. I’m speaking to people who are mentally well. Do not have a mental illness but are not feeling good not feeling happy. Not in a good frame of mind right now.

And if you are that person we can change that so that you can be the kind of parent you want to be for your children. Let’s take a look at this in the work field. right now in Canada On any given week 500000 people that have full time work don’t go to work because of their state of mental wellness.

That’s scary. Half a million people. Now if you’re an employer and imagine what it would be like if your employees were feeling great and when they came to work they could focus and they could do their work with joy and love and not be distracted by the problems in their life.

But what if the opposite were true. What if they weren’t processing the traumas and challenges and stresses of their everyday life. And what if they were checking out mentally when they came to work or not able to come to work.

It really becomes a concern. So who you are as a person matters and your level of happiness and resiliency is important. if you’re in a relationship, if you’re part of a family and if you’re part of the workforce it’s crucial.

And if you’re part of our youth. you’re the next generation. So giving happiness and resiliency is key. And I figure the pieces fit together like this.

life comes at us inevitably bad things traumatic things tragic things, Unfortunately they’re going to happen at some point for all of us or for somebody we care deeply about.

It’s not that one of us has an easier life than the next. It’s how we process it.

It’s in how we deal with it. How do we cope. How do we store the files or the memories about what happened.

What do we make it mean about ourselves. How do we choose to let it frame us or define us or not.

How do we bounce back. How do we recover. Do we write a victim story for ourselves or a hero story for ourselves.

Are we proud survivors or are we still stuck in the quagmire.

So you can have two people that go through the exact same challenging traumatic experience or two very different ways. And today you get to become the person that can face our challenges and come out on top.

So in our next lecture we’re gonna be covering what those methods are. how you can become more resilient, so that no matter what life throws at you, you’ll be able to not just rise to the challenge.

Rise above the challenge survives heal and recover then thrive then shine and maybe just one day help other people go on that same healing jury themselves.

So I’m really excited to see you in our next lecture. We’re gonna go into tools you can start using and it’s gonna be great.